Wise woman Mira Keras recently mentioned a unique strategy she came up for dealing with situations when either she, her husband or her young daughter Gogo are angry, inevitable in any close relationship. They silently “sign” a Sign Language expression for “angry”.
It’s a quick, effective signal that a fierce emotion is in play and that the angered person needs time and space to cool off before talking about it. It lets the other person know what’s going on, acknowledges the emotion (rather than squelching it). AND it gives the angry person space to decipher the reasons for anger, and diffuse the charge, rather than acting out or blowing up.
It’s amazing how such a simple action can cover so many bases at once, and navigate a healthy route for anger, per Artistotle’s wise view:
Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.
To make the sign for angry, form one hand into a claw facing toward you, then move it downward.
You see a 7-second video of it here.